Hello, i thought I would introduce myself. My partner is a FTM, transman. I met him en he identified as a lesbian and I fell in love with hm a a lesbian woman. Yes, I identify as lesbian. He moved to Pennsylvania from Texas to be with me. Shortly after getting here, he came out to me a a transman.
I am in love with hm through and through so his being trans didnt' bother me one bit. He is an incredible man and i am thrilled that I found him. He is everything I could ever want in a partner.
Shortly, my partner will be joining these forums, too.
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Hello, newbie here..partner is a transman
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loislane
, Apr 14 2011 07:47 PM
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Posted 27 April 2011 - 06:59 PM
Hello! My name is Katelyn and I have been with my partner who is also FTM for 6 years now. When we met 6 years ago, I met him when he was living and identifying as a lesbian and female. 3 years later, he began to transition. It was one of the hardest decisions that I am sure he had to make, and for myself also, however I have never been happier.
Recently, he has changed his license and all paperwork over to male except for his social sec card. We live in MA and you are able to change everything except federal documents once you have been on hormones here, regardless of whether or not you have had surgery.
How are you handling your partners transition? If I may ask?
Recently, he has changed his license and all paperwork over to male except for his social sec card. We live in MA and you are able to change everything except federal documents once you have been on hormones here, regardless of whether or not you have had surgery.
How are you handling your partners transition? If I may ask?
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Posted 11 June 2011 - 09:43 AM
Hi Lois, or anyone else that can constructively contribute!
I have been in a relationship with an FTM for somewhere around 6 years. When I met him, he was already in the trans phase. My parents know about his situation, and although I have never identified as a lesbian (I was acutally in a hetro marriage when we met) they were very accepting of him and my new situation. He recently let his family know his situation. They are most all acceptiong of him as well. Our current porblems revolve around his inability to get in touch with his emotions. He can never admit when he is wrong, and his anger gets out of control. I am not sure how to deal with with this. Can anyone help me? I revently asked him to move out because I can't take it anymore!
I have been in a relationship with an FTM for somewhere around 6 years. When I met him, he was already in the trans phase. My parents know about his situation, and although I have never identified as a lesbian (I was acutally in a hetro marriage when we met) they were very accepting of him and my new situation. He recently let his family know his situation. They are most all acceptiong of him as well. Our current porblems revolve around his inability to get in touch with his emotions. He can never admit when he is wrong, and his anger gets out of control. I am not sure how to deal with with this. Can anyone help me? I revently asked him to move out because I can't take it anymore!
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Posted 12 June 2011 - 12:03 AM
Hi Stacy,
How long has he been on Testosterone? I assume it's been awhile since he was already transitioning when you met 6 years ago. I myself have been on Testosterone (T) for almost 5 years and it definitely can cause anger, aggression, and can be an emotional rollercoaster. Has he had his T levels tested lately, and are they stable? Maybe they're too high or too low - and that can definitely cause anger, aggression, moodiness, irritability, and temper and emotional problems. Everyone is different, but he might want to get his T levels adjusted, and evened out. Has he always been this way, or has it gotten worse lately? If it's getting to the point that you're asking him to move out, obviously it's not a good situation. And is he willing to admit the problem? There could be many reasons for his agitation, but you also have a right to have stability and he needs to take responsiblity for his anger, and NOT take things out on you, ever. So what I'm saying is, there could be a medical reason, but he also needs to take some positive and constructive action to remedy the situation before it ruins your relationship completely.
Just my 2 cents, hope it helps, Chris O
How long has he been on Testosterone? I assume it's been awhile since he was already transitioning when you met 6 years ago. I myself have been on Testosterone (T) for almost 5 years and it definitely can cause anger, aggression, and can be an emotional rollercoaster. Has he had his T levels tested lately, and are they stable? Maybe they're too high or too low - and that can definitely cause anger, aggression, moodiness, irritability, and temper and emotional problems. Everyone is different, but he might want to get his T levels adjusted, and evened out. Has he always been this way, or has it gotten worse lately? If it's getting to the point that you're asking him to move out, obviously it's not a good situation. And is he willing to admit the problem? There could be many reasons for his agitation, but you also have a right to have stability and he needs to take responsiblity for his anger, and NOT take things out on you, ever. So what I'm saying is, there could be a medical reason, but he also needs to take some positive and constructive action to remedy the situation before it ruins your relationship completely.
Just my 2 cents, hope it helps, Chris O
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Posted 06 August 2011 - 12:11 PM
Hi. Sorry its taken me sooo long to join....there was a problem with getting the activation email lol. My name is Austin Jacob (you can just call me austin ;)) and I am a FTM and loislane is the love of my life and i will most definitely marry her once i transition!! :D
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Posted 30 November 2011 - 03:15 PM
Kudos to all those supportive partners out there. I am one as well and we just got through top surgery and hysto this month (yep, both in the same month). I'm so glad to have that behind us. Jordan is just giddy about his new man-chest. We have been together almost 13 years but in the last year he really had a tough time coming to terms with what he knew deep down. He was afraid of losing everything... family, job, me. What the reality is is that those ties are stronger than ever on all three fronts! I went through every emotion in the book from grief to hilarity and just feel amazingly privileged to get to witness this transformation.
I believe we have to thank those who are living their truth out loud (like Chaz and others in the spotlight). Jordan and I had the chance to hang with Chaz and Jen at the last Gender Odyssey conference in Seattle (if you haven't been... you've GOT to go... partners track is terrific). This is a different time and a different world to be going through this in. I'm so grateful.
I believe we have to thank those who are living their truth out loud (like Chaz and others in the spotlight). Jordan and I had the chance to hang with Chaz and Jen at the last Gender Odyssey conference in Seattle (if you haven't been... you've GOT to go... partners track is terrific). This is a different time and a different world to be going through this in. I'm so grateful.
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