Posted 06 May 2010 - 03:11 PM
I have been male as long as I can remember; when I was young, I used to rip off dresses and other girl's clothing because it just felt wrong. But I soon learned to go along with the program; it was bad enough getting beat for whatever I did or didn't do without adding that to it. Once I left home, I only had boys/mens clothing. When I started taking T, I felt normal inside my skin for the first time in my life.
My family never accepted the gay thing; no need to even address the trans issue as they don't have anything to do with me anyway. I started telling my friends, but it felt like I was apologizing for being myself so I stopped. If they have questions, they can ask me. Some have and others haven't; I've only lost one or two friends over this process. The rest either have said they knew it all along or have been incredibly supportive.
That's enough for now.
Posted 06 May 2010 - 04:01 PM
I agree that it's crazy that the medical community will acknowledge that transition is a medical need (they require diagnosis for us to go through with it), but then will not assist us at all financially. I am also downright furious that you have to have surgery to legally change your gender, when they know it costs this much without any help. The diagnosis should be enough to have that legally changed, I really believe that. Because legal sex/gender (the government uses these terms interchangeably) does not reflect genitals AT ALL. I can legally get that changed with chest surgery. That's why I know it's a load of hogwash that they require surgery at all. We are "serious." Surgery doesn't prove that. It only proves we somehow got all that money.
I used to live near your area. I was in Sonoma County. I wanted surgery with Michael Brownstein. It took my friend two years to save up enough. I'd still like to work with Brownstein. I worry he'll retire before I can save up enough! I have other medical problems that need addressing too. Being trans is an extra problem and I don't know where I'm going to get this extra money...
I'm very frustrated by the surgery situation. Now, I'm smaller than an A cup, but still. I want a normal male chest. And I want to be legally male so people will stop giving me "looks" when I show them my ID. I'm tired of also people thinking my ID is fraudulent or stolen.
Posted 11 May 2010 - 10:41 PM
If you have any other questions, feel free to e-mail me, OK? Chris Ohara
Posted 11 May 2010 - 10:46 PM
Posted 13 May 2010 - 12:04 AM
I had double-incision because I was a C cup - but the scars are minimal and fading more every day. Seems like a key-hole would be even less money, not more. Whatever surgeon you decide on, make sure they have plenty of experience doing this type of surgery, and check out their photos of their work before you have them cut on you. I've seen some photos of some really badly botched chest surgeries, so beware. The surgeon in Nebraska did a GREAT job on my chest - and I healed up really quickly which was great.
Good luck and it WILL happen for you! Chris
Posted 13 May 2010 - 12:40 PM
Another thing is that supposedly not many surgeons do keyhole. Now I have not done a great deal of research but I know of two surgeons who's results looks pretty much completely natural. But they both charge quite a bit. I had a friend who payed about $9000 for his.