Posted 14 May 2011 - 04:24 AM
I am the mom of a Transgender 14 yr old FTM. Thank you for this site and the support. As a mom, I am trying to be as supportive as I can be. We began this journey approximately a year ago and have the support of a great LGBT center here in NY. Our benefit from this center is 2 fold - my child has a safe and supportive team on their side and we have a better relationship. However, I am a firm believer in no support is too much support. It is no coincidence that the documentary was shown this week on the OWN network.
Thank You Chaz for sharing your story - I have a better understanding of my child and with that understanding I can be a better support.
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Thanks, Chaz, for being YOU and having the courage and love to help us all.
I just wanted to take a minute to personally welcome you to the new community forum section of my website. I want to create a place where trans people and our allies could come together to share experiences, information and ideas. Being transgender or loving someone who is transgender can be challenging in our society and I hope that members of this site will also use this space as a place to support and encourage each other. Together, we can strengthen our community and open the hearts and minds of others.
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Posted 19 June 2011 - 05:24 PM
How are things? I have to say it was one day approx. a month ago I turned on the tube and started watching you on Oprah. I was so amazed but also in shock when you spoke about the feeling you experienced growing up as a little girl and into a woman not feeling complete or something missing, I said this is how I felt, as well feel to this day. At that very moment I dialed my mother and told her to turn on the television to Oprah, she said she was already watching. I said to her "Mom, doesn't Chaz remind you of me"? The example I provided to my mother was when it would be a huge fuss having to wear a dress (having major tantrums when I was forced to wear them); being told as a young child to put my t-shirt back on when I was outside (feeling why it was a big issue to cover my body in the first place); wishing as a little child I was born a boy to this day wishing I was a man; hating the fact I had to enter the female washroom and be told by a complete stranger "excuse me sir you're in the wrong washroom". Other things that upset me was when I would be tossed a barbie doll when I much rather play with transformers, or outside in the dirt, lossing privileges because all my allowence went to been eaten up by the arcade machine and to this day being a huge gamer of COD. Having people stare in my direction when I would walk masculine looking and not dressing or acting ladylike.
After watching Oprah that day and hearing you were coming out with a new book I picked up the telephone and dialed Chapters, asking them when exactly the book would be available, in two days they said whiched seemed more like forever having to wait since I had to have it mailed to me due to the fact Chapters is not available where I live. Finally....I receive it and immediately began reading it (during one reading my coworker asked me what I was reading and I told her she said "why would you want to read that, I said because it interests me") and today I finished it and said to myself what an amazing book as well what an amazing strong individual you are to come out not once by twice now to the world. From beginning to end there are so many things you write about which I say to myself this is exactly how I feel.
I have a friend FTM who just recently transitioned, I asked him questioned such as, when did your voice change, where would you go in Winnipeg, Manitoba to get this done and so on and so on. He said all his couseling occurred at Klinc, he also said he got to stay in the city to have top surgery. I then asked if he has bottom surgery done as of yet, which he said no because its still like a ginny pig situation and can be risky. He said to me I have always felt you were trans but just sat back and waited if I would ever come out. I have come out 15 years ago as a lesbian to my whole family and friends, as well I am not shy to speak out if someone asks if I am, but really I do feel like I am still not my complete self. I have let it be known to some friends I have been thinking I am transgender and if so how they would be feel about this. My friends said to me if you are then that is cool with us, as well my sisters have kinda asked me if I have ever wanted to be a boy/man to which I said yes. They to have said if I were to ever transition they would accept me with open arms and finally be able to call me their brother just not like in a teasing manner.
The only person I would be worried to let it be known to would be my father, he seemed to have a harder time dealing with me coming out as a lesbian bur I gave him his space and gave him his time to grieve and finally come around, I just don't know how he would feel or deal with this if I were to come out as transgender. Any suggestions from readers as to how to come out to a parent without losing them?
Posted 01 July 2011 - 09:50 AM
I was very grateful to meet you in person in Chicago last month. I have since read my signed copy of Transition. I have greater understanding of your personal story - thanks for sharing so much! We discussed music briefly, and while I've not played in 15 years, I decided (after our discussion) to go aead and pick up where I left off.
A special thanks for the inspiration to play again! I hope to continue it and evolve something fun out of the Chicago music scene. I have caught the ear of a LA producer already, which is exciting. Somewhere along the way, I would like to contribute time and energy to help transgender youth like you do. I've done so with troubled straight kids in the past, and now hope to help more specifically in the area of transgender.
Fashion Stylist to Transgender Men and Women
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Posted 10 July 2011 - 08:12 PM
My name's Roman, I'm 17 years old and an ftm who is out to their mom, but no other family member as trans, but openly identifying as a lesbian until I have the means to transition. I'm still in high school, love art in all its forms, music (especially any kind of metal \m/._. ) Oscar Wilde is my hero and I'm a vegetarian who loves all things involving Tim Burton.
Just a little bit about me ^.^
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Posted 23 August 2011 - 12:22 AM
First a bit about me I am pretty much a very Heterosexual Male that is happy to be the gender that I am. Also while technically I am an independent I am pretty conservative on a great number of issues. ::: the audience gasps!:::: I am college educated with a dual degree focus in philosophy and clinical psychology. And I am a former marine. ::: crowd gasps again as I am not painting a pretty stereotypic picture of myself::: Last but not least I am a Christian though not what one would call an evangelical one. In other words I have no problem with Darwin on religious grounds, I am neither anti-gay, nor am I anti-transexual in any form. And yet I do believe that Christianity need not be watered down nor inconsistent to be compatible with my point of view on the specific sexual and gender orientation positions I listed above. And while I believe in my faith over other faiths, I also for reasons way to esoteric and philosophic to get into here have no issue with people of other faiths. In particular those whose primary basis is love, Decency, and a connection to a higher guiding divine source that is in essence ineffable and not possible to ever be completely defined by any use of words, or human symbolic medium of any kind but it can be experienced and heard in our intuition as we live our life in the impulse that come to use to give our lives shape, meaning and purpose. So to simplify it even more I am down with any religious faith that is about love in the biggest sense of the word and is about giving a purpose an ultimate ground for purpose, values and meaning.
Or to quote one of my favorite books the Tao Te Ching. Tao (God) is how and it cannot be perfectly or completely defined by any human means, If you are talking about it (God, tao, or the underlying how of all things) just remember you are not ever fully capturing it. Tao (God) is how, the principle of how when and where all manifests and unfolds, Tao (God) is not the cosmos or creation. Tao (God) is the ultimate ground of form and principle that on which all of creation springs forth from, manifests and unfolds. Tao (or God) is the uncaused cause, and the Cosmos is manifestation of change that spring forth from Tao (or God) that is all there is principle (God) and creation. The Tao (or God) that is the inspirational and governing force of all and there is the creation itself, an active ever changing manifestation of the Tao (or god).
Ok so here is to the world most serious and long winded introduction ever! For those who get to know me it may be a bit awkward to call me Love is love, so you can just call me Rob.
First an foremost you can think of me as someone to talk to who while being totally supportive of this community and all of it members having full rights. But I am not someone that thinks everything that that is in a traditional point of view is ignorant and useless and if you would like to engage me, in frank BUT FRIENDLY and respectful conversation about points of view that you might not get from others here than I am at your service. In the mean time I am am grateful and appreciative to Chaz that this is a forum that is open to all who are supportive to the various communities this board serves.
Be well all, Bye for now, Love is love - Rob