I thought I had a boyfriend, but I was wrong....
Posted 24 February 2012 - 07:37 PM
I had known him through online games and everyone pertty much knew him as a he. I spoke with him on Vent/Mumble and he sounded like a he. He explained to me he had Klinefelter's Syndrome, but when I had gotten a random voicemail/pocket dial....well he sounded like a she. He passed it off as being part of the Klinefelter's. I really had a sneaking suspicion that he was really a she. I knew him for about a year online before he confessed his feelings for me. It's almost been a year that we are together, only online. But he is from Canada & I am from the states. He is going to school so we haven't met up yet. We were planning on it "soon"...though I think he was just saying that.
Through facebook I found his sister/mothers pages and was able to determine that my suspicions were correct & I confronted him. I cried. I am not mad though. I can only imagine how hard it is to be accepted and to go through things. Though at the same time I don't know what I want to do. He indicates he wants to go through with the transgender surgery, but hasnt done so yet. Any advise, insight, thoughts would be greatly appreciated. I really do have a strong connection with this person and thought they were "the one". They thought I would stop talking to them, but I informed them I still love them and will always talk to them. I just dont know if I want to continue our relationship as friends only or keep them where they were.
Posted 24 February 2012 - 07:49 PM
I guess you have to decide how strong YOU are and if you can stand by someone that you think (or know) you care about, through transition from one gender to another. It's a huge decision for sure. Only you know.
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Posted 24 February 2012 - 08:04 PM
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Posted 26 February 2012 - 12:47 AM
Why not give him a chance? My fiance' took a big chance with me, and we are still very much in love and will be getting married soon. It wasn't always easy, especially for her, but she stood by me and she is definitely my soul mate.
Only you know what you can handle - I'd say to just take it slow and easy and see how things go, etc. Just don't write him off, though, that's my best advice.
Posted 26 February 2012 - 03:07 PM
By the way thank you so much for giving me insight. I kinda wish there were more places to get point of views from women who are partners to ftm people.
Posted 27 February 2012 - 10:46 PM
There is so much more to being in love and being intimate than body parts also.
Just something to consider.